Effective Corporate Rizz

Last week, my eldest son turned 7, and suddenly, I went from being “papá” to "bruh." I also learned that apparently, I “have no rizz.” If you're as lost as I was, "rizz" (short for charisma) was named "Word of the Year" in 2023. New generations use "rizz" to describe someone's ability to effortlessly charm, connect, and influence others through charisma and social skills.

So, what’s the connection with being effective? The Wall Street Journal suggests "rizz" might be the secret to getting ahead at work. In the corporate world, it enhances communication, builds relationships, and fosters trust (key for leadership, collaboration, and growth). Outside of work, it helps build strong friendships and connections.

So, do you want to be a Rizzler? The Rizzard of Oz? Rizzy McGuire? This too is a skill you can learn. Read on for practical tips.

THE THEORY

How to Win Friends and Influence People: Dale Carnegie's famous book is a blueprint for mastering "rizz." The key principles (showing genuine interest in others, smiling, being positive, avoiding criticism, and using people’s names) are all timeless tips that align perfectly with modern “rizz.” Carnegie’s advice to make others feel important is central to charisma; it’s about making others feel valued, which is just as relevant in today’s workplaces.

"Rizz" embodies Bourdieu’s Theory of Capital. In professional settings, influence often depends more on the networks and social connections you build than on technical skills alone. When you invest in authentic, meaningful relationships and understand the cultural norms of your environment, you are accumulating valuable social and cultural capital. This capital opens doors for collaborations, partnerships, and mentorships. It’s about building genuine, mutually beneficial connections that enhance your influence and reputation.

EQ and "Rizz." High Emotional Intelligence (EQ) means being aware of your own emotions and those of others, allowing you to navigate conversations with empathy and understanding. EQ elements like active listening, empathy, and adaptability are key to building charisma. It’s about reading the room and adjusting your energy accordingly - knowing when to be upbeat and when to take a more thoughtful, calm approach. The better you can read and respond to these dynamics, the more effectively you can connect with others.

MY PERSONAL THOUGHTS

Corporate "Rizz" is a thing. Based on the WSJ article, corporate "rizz" is the ability to blend confidence with authenticity. It’s not about being the loudest voice but about actively listening, showing interest, and making others feel comfortable and valued. Embrace your quirks instead of trying to look too polished. People trust those who are relatable, not those who seem perfect.

What I Find Most Relevant: In remote and hybrid environments, meaningful connections are still possible. Remembering small details, like someone’s pet’s name, makes your virtual presence impactful. I found Charisma on Command on YouTube to be a practical resource for this. It offers tips on active listening, handling teasing, and introducing yourself with confidence, using examples from charismatic figures like Tom Holland, Chris Evans, Jack Harlow, and Keanu Reeves.

HOW TO PUT THIS INTO PRACTICE

1. Develop Active Listening: Don’t just hear - engage. Nod, ask follow-up questions, and show genuine care for others' perspective.

2. Adapt to Situations: Just like situational leadership, understand the vibes of a meeting or conversation and adjust your approach to match the energy - whether it's energetic brainstorming or thoughtful problem-solving.

3. Study Body Language: Align your verbal and non-verbal cues: maintain eye contact, mirror gestures, and adopt attentive postures. (Pro Tip: Showing your palms when speaking conveys openness and honesty).

4. Show Appreciation: Set a weekly reminder to send a thank-you note recognizing a colleague’s efforts.

Ultimately, rizz is about making others feel seen and valued.

"Bruh, now you’ve got rizz,"

Jorge Luis Pando